Time Wasted

Hey friends,

I think one of the hardest parts about parting ways with someone (platonically or romantically) is that you feel you’ve wasted your time.

Or your energy, money, resources, love, etc.

But by learning a lesson or gaining a skill out of the relationship it doesn’t feel like my time was wasted.

One of the greatest skills I received out of one of my relationships was learning and appreciating all the different types of love languages.

Prior to them I would mainly give and receive quality time but as we evolved I learned to appreciate the other languages.

I discovered the joy of gift giving by choosing presents that were sentimental and held value over ones with a higher price tag.

I enjoyed performing acts of service to help and support them.

I craved having small physical touch moments like when you hold hands and squeeze 3 times, that was our silent way of saying ‘I love you’.

And lastly the one that I rarely gave and didn’t appreciate enough was words of affirmation.

But it is one that I have most improved in and will forever be grateful to receive.

Without loving that person and writing a hundred letters to them first I wouldn’t be confident in writing and most likely would have never had the courage to begin this newsletter.

I don’t feel like I wasted any time loving them because I received so much that I am still using now.

Is there someone you have parted ways with (platonic or romantic) that you need to understand the lessons they came with to move on in peace?

All my love,

Kaila 💌